October 3, 2017


    2017-08-11-17-36-10-636     Empathy means the ability to understand the feelings of others.

   Every time a medical procedure is scheduled I become anxious and I feel sad.  In order not to let these crazy emotions run my life I turn to my husband, and my Mother.  They are my rocks.  Everyone should pick a person or person’s to be their emergency contact.

My Father was included in the small circle of the Family members I could depend on, but he passed away last December from pancreatic cancer.  Although, he is not here in the flesh he is with me in spirit.  I can hear his voice in my mind, and his scent remains on a hat that I inherited.  Yet the reality is sad, his passing made it necessary to remove him from my medical legal documents.

Decisions concerning life and death may be the most important decisions of our lives.  These matters are easier to make when you have people you trust help guide you.  Pre-Planning before a medical emergency can save families time, money and ensure a persons medical wishes are adhered to.   Yet, estate planning documents are the paper trail of life, and when changes are made old documents should be shredded.    Does not take away the important parts of life…why we want to stay…not for the distribution of assets…for the ones we love.

Life is complicated,  and we are not our social security number.  We are human, life is not a game., and having an illness and everything that goes with it is a full-time job.  Surrounding ourselves with our family and friends makes living through uncomfortable situations  bearable.  Like a kiss on the cheek from a loved one before an MRI or a brush on the hand while being wheeled back to the examination room.

How would you feel, and what would make you happy if the tables were turned?



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About maryjudge

I have always lived life to the fullest. I have felt great joy and excruciating pain. I have succeeded and failed many times. Some people called me reckless others courageous. None of the views of others mattered until two years ago when I faced death like a Tuesday evening date. I was diagnosed with Stage 4 Cancer. My life changed the moment the words "You have cancer" was spoken. Now everything I do I am conscious of. Please join me on my blog Stage 4 Living Life to the fullest with Cancer. Or my blog Ruby Moonbean Fantacy and Science Fiction. PEACE


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